I had an insight last week after my sister made a random comment. It’s one of those moments when there are so many memories presented and ahaaa moments, that I was really curious about things. I thought to myself, “After all these years, I have been confused about my self worth, subconsciously or consciously.” Did I miss the chat about self worth somewhere or am I just a slow learner that needs to learn by experience? Or were the talks just about self esteem, not self worth?
So, what is Self Worth
Don’t confuse Self Worth with Self Esteem….the two are completely different. I believe self worth builds self esteem. My definition is – the quality of being worthy or something being worthy for oneself, the sense of one’s own value or worth as a human being.
After the comment from my sister. I was excited and then wondered what route my life would have taken had I asked myself THE QUESTION or presented this statement at any given time. I’m sure it would have been extremely different, that’s for sure, and then again, maybe not. All was and is perfect just the way it is.
Self worth comes in all shapes and sizes: the food we eat, our relationships with others, our relationship with ourselves, our environment in which we live, the quality of life we live, our health, choices of occupation and the list can go on and on. Can you add more?
So, are you wondering what the question is?
Ok, here it is and using a very common situation – the relationship with a significant other.
Am I worthy of being with this person? NO WAY……STOP, that’s not the question to ask!
Is this person worthy of being with me?
That’s the question I will be asking myself with everything from now on. It’s not coming from a place of being better than anyone or too good to do a particular job. My experience tells me, by asking this question, I am wanting what will serve and grow my own spirit, rather than keep it low, being undeserving and unevolving.
Here are a few benefits, just by asking yourself this question and making choices that are serving –
Strong boundaries are created
Work conditions can be better
More lightness
More happiness
More love
More self love
Empowerment
Gratitude
Self belief
More energy
Space for creativity
Better health
Better sleep
Deeper Connections with self and others
So, next time you come to a situation that requires a decision, ask yourself, “Is this ………..worthy of me?”
With love, health and happiness
Kim
